Last night four of my close friends gathered to say goodbye to Claire and her roommate Maricor who are making their way to New York City by the end of the year.
We had a blast reminiscing together at Nick’s Crispy Tacos on Polk Street (which was packed) followed by a deserted sports bar down the street. Though I was sad to see one of my closest friends move away, I tried to stay in the moment and enjoy the evening.
I’ve seen many friends move away so goodbye’s are something I’m used to. But this one has affected me in unexpected ways and I realized it’s because she has taught me so much about how to be a great friend.
Here are lessons I’ve learned from our friendship:
1) Show up. Even if you don’t feel like it. You’ll be glad you did because showing up is half the battle in creating a lasting friendship.
2) Be understanding. This is one I struggle with. I want my friends to be there for me when I want them to be there. When I started Grad School and didn’t have time to see friends, she didn’t complain or guilt me about how I didn’t make time for her but instead said she was grateful for the little time we did get to spend together.
3) Have fun together. Instead of just getting together and chatting over a cup of coffee or over dinner, we always did things. We went out dancing, attended concerts and walked farmer’s markets. Doing activities together helped us bond.
Though these lessons may seem simple, seeing these lessons in action helped me see what a great friendship can be created when the right amount of effort is put in.